The Solomon Paradox
- Jill Katz
- Mar 17, 2020
- 2 min read
There are some questions or statements that get thrown around quite a lot when you are a Professional Organizer.
One common question I hear:
“I am so nervous standing here looking at my clutter. Doesn’t all that clutter make you nervous?”
And my answer is always:
“No, because it’s not my clutter.”
The Solomon Paradox
Enter the Solomon Paradox. The Solomon Paradox is a proven behavioral phenomenon in which people think more clearly about other people’s problems than their own. The origin comes from the story of King Solomon the King of Israel who was so wise that people would travel from all over the world to ask him the answer to their questions. However, King Solomon's wisdom was no help to himself. He made all kinds of personal mistakes from women to money to parenting.
So breaking it down:
King Solomon was wise
King Solomon could use his wisdom to help others
King Solomon could not apply his wisdom to his personal life – What a mess!
People think more clearly about other people’s problems than their own.
You and King Solomon
So how does the Solomon Paradox translate to organizing? The average person can look at someone else’s closet and discern that the ripped college sweatshirt has seen its heyday. Take a picture if you must but say goodbye. Yet
have the owner of that closet look at the same sweatshirt and she sees “an old friend” and clarity goes out the window.
Breaking it down again:
You’re a reasonable person
You can use that reason to help colleagues, family and friends
You will have a much harder time applying the same reason to your personal life – So Unfair!
Making the Solomon Paradox Work For You
Fortunately, a recent study published in the Journal of Psychological Study reveals a way to reverse the Solomon Paradox. If you distance yourself from a given situation and look at it in third-person, you can tap into your peak reasoning ability.
Tricks of the Trade
Here are some organizing tricks that Professional Organizers often use. We:
Take everything out of its usual space (e.g., all items off the bookshelf) so clients will eye their belongings from a new perspective
Hold up an item of clothing because studies have shown that when a client touches his/her clothes they are more likely to keep them
Place sentimental items in front of a client only as the last step of an organizing project because we know that clients need to strengthen their organizing muscle first by looking at less personal items.
Of course, hiring a professional organizer will help you with the Solomon Paradox since there is a third party there to talk you through your decision making (me tooting my own horn – toot, toot!). But now that you know about the Solomon Paradox, you can use third person language when organizing, or recruit a friend to let you know when you and reason are parting ways.
The concept of the Solomon Paradox is such a fascinating look at why it’s so much easier to solve other people's problems than our own! It perfectly explains why we can be completely objective about a friend's cluttered closet while feeling an intense emotional attachment to our own "old friends" like a worn-out college sweatshirt. The practical tips for overcoming this—like taking items out of their usual space to gain a new perspective or using third-person language—are brilliant ways to tap into that peak reasoning ability.
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This is such an insightful look at the "Solomon Paradox" and why it’s so much easier to organize someone else's life than our own. The idea that we can be wise for others but struggle with our own "ripped jeans" is something everyone can relate to. The tips for distancing yourself—like taking everything out of its space or looking at things in the third person—are brilliant psychological hacks for clearer decision-making.
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I really enjoyed this explanation of the Solomon Paradox! It’s so relatable—how we can be so objective for others but struggle with the same logic in our own lives. I love the 'Tricks of the Trade' you shared, especially about distancing yourself from the emotional attachment of belongings. It’s similar to how we approach personal care; sometimes we need an outside perspective or a specific routine to see results. For example, staying consistent with scalp care or trying a specialized treatment like a High Frequency Facial can feel much more effective when you step back and look at it as a necessary part of your overall wellness strategy. Using that 'third-person' perspective is such a helpful way to reclaim clarity in both…
There's some serious truth-telling going on here! The cobbler's children go barefoot is the metaphor I often use, but the Solomon Paradox is so apt! I'm a professional organizer and am proud of the discernment I bring to client situations, but when I organize my own spaces, I am definitely a nester, anticipating negative emotions if I let certain things go. All three of those tricks you describe are spot-on, and all during the pandemic, I kept wishing I had someone else who could hold up the items in front of me so that I could make decisions as if they belonged to someone else. I even laughed at myself, because I often give clients the "take a photo, it'll last…
I agree that having a third party, an organizer, in the room changes the dynamic when you are trying to making decisions. I love how that works. I feel like it just makes people stronger and more willing to make the hard decisions.